Before I became a blogger I was plain boring, now I am less boring and my degree choice does not make it any better. I have been a blogger for over a year now and I have been taught so many things and most of them were not always good things and they bled me to the most important lesson of them all. The difference between an influencer and influenza. Yes, some of these bloggers are viruses. I am not one to shame people but I honestly feel bad for all the other girls in my shoes that follow these women. Women that make you feel less beautiful and want you to believe that living a life like theirs is “making it in life”. What’s worse is that they are everywhere. It’s so unfair. Social media is now being used as a platform to encourage girls to want the wrong things in life and if I hadn’t seen the light.
And you are obviously wondering Where and when I saw the light?
Well I was browsing through my Instagram stories and this was just after someone had told me to check out one of these influenzas’ page and I really felt so bad about myself, she had bloomed into this icon over a few months and established three businesses, was travelling all over the world, had over 200k followers and I will not even mention the clothes and makeup. It was admirable but I could not relate. Her source of income was unknown and unclear. I mean who becomes an Instagram model in less than six months and gets all that money. I did my research and the numbers did not add up. She is not the only one, most of these influencers have dodgy glo-ups which is why I decided to save myself the heartache and pressure by unfollowing all of them and I have decided to gain motivation from men and women that are closer to home.
You know what they say about viruses right? There just isn’t any cure for them, they can only be treated. I was sick with a virus for the longest period in 2017 and this was even worse than the Coronavirus. Sadly, I didn’t even know that I was sick. I had reached a point in my life when I wanted to be the best version of other people except my vision. Yes, visions have different versions. You just choose the favorable one. My life was all about getting what the girls on Instagram were getting. The nails, the weaves, the lashes and the good food.
Influencers controlled my life. I deleted every Instagram post I had because they were too plain and I did not look good enough. I got fake nails which it took me a while to realize they were not my kind of swag. Fake nails really make me uncomfortable. I’d rather have short nails with a bit of nail polish on. I bought clothes which I don’t even know anymore and the phone I’m using now needs an upgrade because God forbid Apple spend a year without a new update. That was me until I realized that these women were literally forcing me to become someone I did not even want. I was no longer the “Girl With A Business Plan”. Influencers will persuade you to do things that you do not want to do and their virus has spread all over the world.
The reason why I have decided to talk about this now is because many girls are still falling victim to them. Would you want your daughter to be Kylie Jenner or Greta Thunberg? Don’t you want to raise a young woman that wants to change the one and not one that is screaming, “you should watch what I do and envy my life” on every Instagram post. Please don’t get me wrong, there are a few things to admire about the kardashians and Jenners but there is plenty more you will find in other great women. I now follow women who are ready to change the world. I don’t care if she has two followers. What I care about is what she does, how she does it and draw inspiration from it. I got so tired of feeling down because I could not reach a level of riches whose sources I could not trace.
The truth is, life is not a bed of roses and you’re going to have to work for everything that you want. Working girls understand that their hard earned money is worth more than $1500 Christian Louboutins. That kind of flex is for millionaires. A bed of roses has it thorn. So take the pain and run with it until you reach your ultimate goal. Your hustle will off.
Piece of advice: stop following influencers and look up to women who are making a difference in society. Thanks.