You know what they say about viruses right? There just isn’t any cure for them, they can only be treated. I was sick with a virus for the longest period in 2017 and this was even worse than the Coronavirus. Sadly, I didn’t even know that I was sick. I had reached a point in my life when I wanted to be the best version of what society deemed perfect. I lost my vision. Yes, visions have different versions. You just choose the favorable one. My life was all about getting what the girls on Instagram were getting. The nails, the weaves, the lashes and the good food.
Influencers controlled my life. I deleted every Instagram post I had because they were too plain and I did not look good enough. I got fake nails and it took me a while to realize they were not my kind of swag. Fake nails really make me uncomfortable. I’d rather have short nails with a bit of nail polish on. I bought clothes which I don’t even know anymore and the phone I’m using now needs an upgrade because God forbid Apple spends a year without a new update. That was me until I realized that these women were literally forcing me to become someone I did not even want. I was no longer the “Girl With A Business Plan”. Influencers will persuade you to do things that you do not want to do and their virus has spread all over the world. They are not bad people and they do not do this willingly.
The reason why I have decided to talk about this now is because many girls are still falling victim to them. Would you want your daughter to be Kylie Jenner or Greta Thunberg? Don’t you want to raise a young woman that wants to change the one and not one that is screaming, “you should watch what I do and envy my life” on every Instagram post. Please don’t get me wrong, there are a few things to admire about the Kardashian’s and Jenner’s but there is plenty more you will find in other great women. I now follow women who are ready to change the world. I don’t care if she has two followers. Like Thembiso M, a techie who stays winning. What I care about is what she does, how she does it and draw inspiration from it. I got so tired of feeling down because I could not reach a level of riches whose sources I could not trace.
The truth is, life is not a bed of roses and you’re going to have to work for everything that you want. Working girls understand that their hard earned money is worth more than $1500 Christian Louboutin’s. That kind of flex is for millionaires. A bed of roses has its thorns. So take the pain and run with it until you reach your ultimate goal. Your hustle will pay off. For now, live within your means and invest that money.
Piece of advice: stop following influencers and look up to women who are making a difference in society. Thanks.