Cheers to our one month anniversary on #MHM. I trust and hope these articles are helping someone who needs them. Living with a mental health problem is never a choice, and no one should be neglected because of it. Today we discuss who to check up on. Let’s be honest here, the answer is everyone but often at times we forget to do so and it happens to the best of us. So to offer you help in doing so, here are the times you will need to check up on a loved one.
- Recently Moved To A New Area
A while ago, Thembi introduced a new word into my life, culture shock. She had just arrived in USA and had experienced it during her first week. Culture shock is the feeling of disorientation experienced by someone when they are suddenly subjected to an unfamiliar culture, way of life, or set of attitudes. I knew what it was but I just didn’t know what the term was. It’s good to check up on friends when they move. It makes one feel loved and that feeling can combat any mental strain.
2. The friend who has been extra silent
If that is not a red flag then I do not know what is. Silence means someone is trying to fight something and they do not have time to be social. It can also mean someone is drowning in their own thoughts and do not know how to let it out. Please do not wait for someone to come to you, go to them if you truly care about them.
3. The friend who has it all together.
“Strong people” will always act like they have it all together. They will never run to anyone when all hell breaks loose. Remember Regina Hall’s character in Girls Trip. Most times people hide their struggles because they do not want to be seen as weak and out of control. Even if your friend is Michelle Obama, please check on them.
Do not forget to check on yourself. You matter too. Take care of yourself and strive for health in all areas of your life. Your finances, spirituality, emotions and physical health need to be taken care of.
How to Check on someone.
- A quick text message
- Just listening
- Giving someone advice
- Offering practical services
- Offering resources
So you see, being a superhero is not about saving someone from jumping in front of a train, it can be a simple “hie”.
Have a lovely week.